Southern Living to make your toast memorable... for all the RIGHT reasons!
As part of tradition, the host of the event always goes first, then the groom may toast his bride, followed by his family and friends, and lastly, the bride's family and friends. Keeping it clean and making it heartfelt are the two most important aspects of giving a Sweetgrass Social wedding toast, but below are a few more pointers to keep you on the right track. There are even some for receiving and listening to wedding toasts.
Giving a Toast
Rule #1 Brevity
Be brief with your wedding toast. It's best to stay around 2-3 minutes.
Rule #2 Rehearsal
Even spontaneity requires a little forethought so if you're winging it, think about the order or the major points beforehand. Practicing out loud won't hurt either!
Rule #3 The Crowd's Attention
Attract and maintain the crowd's attention! Don't tap your glass or fidget - stand, speak loudly and enunciate.
Receiving a Toast
Rule #4 Self-Appreciation
Don't drink to yourself - avoid raising your glass when a toast is being offered to you - and please, oh please, remain seated.
Listening to a Toast (for the Wedding Guests)
Rule #5 The Host Toasts First
Always let the host do the first toast. If you see champagne glasses on the table, this indicates a toast will be made so if you want to contribute, hold off until after the host!
Rule #6 Always Participate
Even if you're a non-drinker, raise an empty glass but don't just sit there. If you may be called upon to do a toast, have a few on hand just in case!
Giving a Toast as a Host
Rule #7 Let the Guests That Are Giving a Toast Know
Inform which guests you want to give a toast - don't put anyone on the spot. You want the toast section to go smoothly, with heartfelt sentiment and if you put someone on the spot, there's a chance they may not be able to come up with anything meaningful.